What Is Domestic Violence?
In a relationship, there are ups and downs – sometimes people say and do things to each other that are not nice. But there’s a difference between normal arguing and abusive, fighting behaviour in the home, which is called domestic violence.
Abuse is when one person hurts or bullies another person. Domestic violence is when this abuse happens between any couple who are going out with each other, living together, or married.
Usually men are the abusers and women are the victims (the ones getting hurt), but domestic violence can happen to men as well. Sometimes another member of your family might be the abuser; it’s possible that your mum, your brother or sister, your grandparent or your foster parent might be hurting someone in your family.
Domestic violence doesn’t always have to be physical; it can also include emotional abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse. Many of these behaviours are crimes (against the law).
Abuse is not an accident – it is behaviour that is done on purpose and it makes the other person feel frightened or bad about themselves.
Need To Talk?
Police – (FREE) 999
If you need help quickly, then you can dial 999 and ask for the police.
Childline – (FREE) 0800 1111
You can ring Childline at anytime day or night, but because they are busy, it may take a few calls before you get through, so keep trying.
Birmingham Women’s Aid – 0808 800 0028
Birmingham Women’s Aid can help with lots of other stuff and tell you about other places where you’re mum could go, so if your mum wants to find out more she can ring the Helpline.
Ashram Reducing Domestic Violence Project - 0121 764 3817
A new counselling service for children and young people.
Amazon Young People’s Counselling Service - 0121 359 5333
Free confidential counselling for children and young people who have been sexually abused. Counselling and support offered to Parents, carers and siblings.
A website especially for children and young people about domestic violence. There is also a virtual refuge to look around and ask questions.